Father’s Day triggered many emotions in me.
I spent the past week or so mentally beating myself up. You see, over the years I have made many mistakes. I wrote a long blog about my feelings but then realized that it was far too personal to publish without permission from my kids. I sent it to them and told them that if they didn't want me to post I wouldn't. I did not receive a response from either one of them so I’m taking that as a no to posting. But not hearing anything bothered me too. In the past week, as I've done many other times, I have relived every mistake of the past 23 years. But this time I actually did a great deal of praying and soul searching.
Here’s what I learned…
For many years I had all kinds of “explanations” for my actions. But this week I came to realize something: There is a difference between reasons and excuses. For many years I tried to justify my actions (or in many cases, my inaction.) But the bottom line is that I made many selfish and wrong choices. I have spent years trying to convince my kids to forgive me. But I need to allow them to heal at their own pace. Their hurt feelings didn't happen overnight, nor will their healing. The only thing that I can do is learn from my mistakes and make better choices in the future. I want to be a better person than the one that they used to know. The only way to prove that is to be the best person I can be for the rest of my life.
Why do I share such personal information?
It turns out that after this week of soul searching and revelations that I was able to use what I learned to help others. I was speaking to someone who had been going through a situation and was reminded of my journey. As I listened the words came back to me and I spoke them, “There is a difference between reasons and excuses.” I went on to share a brief synopsis of my experiences. What I said really spoke to this person’s heart.
I feel that it’s an honor to take that which God has taught me and use it to help others.
Maybe someone is in the midst of a struggle and the words that they read will speak into their lives.
May God bless you this week!